I want to express my thoughts on this topic.
My dad goes to the bar regularly and I sometimes will sit there with him drinking Iced Tea and sometimes I'll have the soup of the day if we are there for a long time. I couldn't help but notice the girls working at the bar. One girl in particular my dad finds attractive is this really skinny kind of tall girl. She wears tiny miniskirts and a form fitting t-shirt. Yeah, shes a size extra small but I don't see that as attractive. She has no muscle definition. She has no shape and her body kind of reminds me of a twelve year old boy.
I took a look at the other girls tending the bar. One particular girl has beautiful blonde hair but shes quite husky in the mid section. She wears a tight zip up (unzipped) sweater over her shirt and tight jeans. Her butt is rather flat, love handles give her a little muffin top yet the men at the bar still flirt with her.
Why are women so judgmental of others? Why do we decide what someone else should or should not be wearing? Do we hold ourselves to these same standards? Are these standards holding ourselves back from accomplishing our goals and a better self-image?
I believe "strong is the new skinny". I look at skinny people and find them to be unappealing. I look at strong women, regardless of their dress size, and find them much more appealing. They portray a more vibrant air of self-respect and overall positive outlook.
One of my goals is to lose weight, but this is not to attempt to become "skinny", I want to lose fat and build muscle to become "strong".
I don't compare the "skinny" girls to how I look but I do question what they see in the mirror when they look at themselves. Are they selling themselves short in the self-respect department? Do they wear those tiny clothes to boost their own confidence? Men will go after any sort of girl if they think she has a pretty face and will put out.
Why not drop the bullshit act and gain the real self confidence you want? The road is easy once you get used to it. Grab your Workout DVD and click play every day and you will gain that confidence you really crave.
If firmly believe I will find true happiness with strength not with skinny. I've been skinny. I've been muffin top. Now its time to be the Fit Strong confident girl. I can find that girl with the Beachbody Challenge. I have faith in myself. I can click play everyday.